You’re waiting for it.  You may be expecting it.  You want that moment.  That A HA moment where everything magically makes sense.  You have a moment of clarity, and POOF – your life is magically transformed.  I hate to burst your bubble but ….

A-ha moments are bullshit.

There I said it.

We sit back and wait.  Thinking that some day it will just hit us.  That all of the sudden we’ll stop being so hard on ourselves.  That we’ll magically love ourselves after years of intense hate.  That we’ll instantly accept who we are instead of trying to change.  That overnight we stop fighting with ourselves and just embrace the beautiful soul we have inside.

It doesn’t happen overnight.  You don’t have an A-HA moment when the change happens.  After all the years of putting yourself down and feeling inferior, you have I’M DONE moments.

I’m done being so negative….

I’m done feeling like I’m not enough….

I’m done hating my body…..

I’m done hiding myself….

I’m done letting my inner mean girl run the show…

I’m done self sacrificing myself to the point where I’m last in the priorities….

I’m done putting myself down…..

I’m done living up to an unrealistic expectation……

I’m done.  I’m done.  I’m done. I’M DONNNEEEEE!!!!!

We eventually get to a point that we are DONE with putting ourselves last.  Done being so negative towards ourselves.  Done living a life where you think you constantly have to change to be loved and accepted.  Done hiding behind a bunch of masks to protect yourself from being seen for who you really are.

Most importantly, we’re done loving everyone else without condition but we can’t do the same for ourselves.  We so freely give love to other people that we need to start turning that love inward to ourselves.  When you can love yourself without conditions, you become free from the chains that have been holding you back.  You don’t need to change who you are or what you look like to love yourself.  You just need to acknowledge, accept, embrace and love yourself, unapologetically.

Sounds easy right.  It’s not.  You don’t wave a wand and AHA, everything is set straight in your heart and mind.  You can’t expect to change immediately when you’ve been so hard on yourself for (dare I say) DECADES!

The point comes, though, when you decide to make yourself a priority, it hits you that you are just as important as everyone else. Its time to stop putting yourself last.  It’s time for you to work on yourself.  It’s time for you to love who you are, what you look like, the soul you have!!  But, it takes constant work, practice, encouragement and inspiration.  And, it helps when you are with people who are on the same journey as you.

And, this why I’ve decided to start a SELF LOVE CLUB.  A club where we are going to constantly work on this self love journey because it needs to be nourished DAILIY.  Not sometimes, not every week…every damn day.  It’s hard work.  But, work that is worth the effort, as this journey isn’t just for you – it’s for all the women and young girls around you.

We have to FIGHT to love ourselves, because we live in a society that preys on the fact that we are unhappy with who we are.  My goal is to replace the negative we’ve been feeding ourselves with the positive.  Our inner voice will be loud, happy, joyful, soulful, encouraging and loving!

WE ARE GOING TO STAND UP AND SHOUT THAT WE LOVE OURSELVES!!

And there’s nothing wrong with that!

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