The Most Common Reasons Women Put Off Boudoir—and Why You Shouldn’t Wait

I want to talk to you about one of the biggest things I hear from women when they think about booking a boudoir session:

“Someday… just not yet.”

And I get it.
Life is busy, confidence ebbs and flows, and sometimes we feel like we need to become someone different before we give ourselves permission to do something extraordinary.

But here’s the truth—“someday” is quietly stealing life from you.

Every woman I’ve ever photographed had reasons to wait… and every single one told me afterward:

“I wish I would have done this sooner.”

Today, I want to talk to you about the reasons women delay boudoir, and why waiting only postpones something that could literally change how you see yourself.

1. “I’m waiting until I lose weight.”

This is the number one reason women put it off.

We tell ourselves:

“I’ll lose weight first.”
“I’ll tone up.”
“I’ll look better then.”

But here’s the truth:

Your confidence doesn’t magically appear when your body changes.

Confidence comes from how you feel about who you are—not from shrinking your body.

I pose you to flatter YOU.
I style you for YOUR shape.
I show you angles that you never see in the mirror.

Your body is not the problem.
Your mindset about your body is.

And waiting doesn’t make you love yourself more—it often delays the exact experience that would help you heal that relationship.

2. “I’m too nervous.”

Of course you’re nervous.
Everyone is.

You are walking into something vulnerable and intimate.
You’re letting yourself be seen.

But here’s what’s wild:

Your nerves usually disappear within minutes.

Even repeat clients still walk in nervous.
Even women who have done it THREE times start out nervous.

You don’t need to know how to pose.
You don’t need experience.
You just need to show up.

I guide everything—where to place your hands, how to angle your chin, how to breathe.

You just follow along.

And somewhere between Outfit One and Outfit Two, something changes…

Your voice becomes louder.
Your posture becomes stronger.
You become more YOU than you have been in a long time.

3. “I should probably spend money on something more practical.”

Listen. I love practicality.

But let me ask you something honestly—

When was the last time you did something big just for you?

Not for your kids.
Not for your partner.
Not for your job.
Not because you “should.”

When was the last time you prioritized something that made YOU feel alive?

Boudoir is not clothing or décor or a bill that disappears into thin air.

Boudoir is an investment in your identity.

It is something that reminds you—
on days when you don’t feel like the strongest version of yourself,
that you ARE.

Women hold their albums years later and cry.

They look at themselves and say:

“That was me.
That IS me.”

There is nothing more practical than investing in the version of you that lives beyond the daily grind.

4. “I don’t think I’m sexy enough.”

Let’s get something straight:

Sexy is not lingerie.
Sexy is not a body type.
Sexy is not age, height, or weight.

Sexy is presence.
Sexy is owning the space you stand in.
Sexy is that shift inside when you finally decide:

“I’m done shrinking.”

And that moment?
I witness it every time.

You don’t walk in sexy.
You walk in open.

And you walk out lit from within.

5. “I don’t know if I’ll like my photos.”

Every woman thinks this.

And then when I show the images—
eyes get big,
hands go over mouths,
shoulders pull back,
and there is this moment of disbelief:

“Is that really me?”

Yes.

The YOU that has always existed,
but the you that life made you forget.

Boudoir gives that version back.

So why shouldn’t you wait?

The truth is, there will never be a perfect time. Life will always give you reasons to postpone something meaningful. There will always be bills, busy seasons, weight fluctuations, emotional seasons, and responsibilities that make you think, “Not yet.”

But most women don’t regret doing a boudoir session.
They regret waiting so long to see themselves differently.

Boudoir allows you to honor the season you are in right now—not the future version of you that feels more polished or prepared, but the woman standing here today, doing her best, carrying her life, and still deserving to feel beautiful.

Waiting doesn’t make insecurity disappear.
Waiting doesn’t build confidence.
Waiting doesn’t get you closer to feeling worthy.

The experience itself is what creates those things.

Boudoir becomes a milestone—
not because you changed anything externally,
but because you finally said,
“I am worth investing in right now.”

It’s a decision that marks time.
A decision you look back on and realize,
“This was a moment when I chose myself.”

When you stop postponing experiences until you hit the perfect version of yourself, life opens up.

You start saying yes more often.
You start showing up differently.
You start valuing the woman you’ve been all along.

You don’t need to wait until you feel confident to have a boudoir experience.
You do the session—and confidence begins to grow from there.

That is why now matters.
Not because urgency is required…
but because you deserve not to delay something that can expand how you see yourself.

And when you finally allow yourself to step into that experience, you realize:

You were ready all along.