From S. S.
From S. S.
Flaws.
We need to stop using the word “flaw.”
What the heck are flaws anyway?
The actual definition of flaw is “a feature that MARS the PERFECTION of something, a DEFECT, a FAULT.” (Emphasis mine)
Perfection. Another word we need to stop using.
Perfection doesn’t exist, it never will. So, if it doesn’t exist how could something be flawed?
When you believe you are flawed or even think that you’re flawed, you send yourself the message that you are defective, you have fault and blame because you have marred the perfection of yourself. Therefore, you must be flawed.
“Flaw.” That word makes you believe that there is something wrong with you that needs to be fixed, that you have to salvage this thing that is so deformed, that this thing you have is unacceptable. Somehow, someway, you are going to improve this defect within yourself because no one wants to be flawed.
STOP BELEIVING THE LIE that there is something inherently wrong with you that needs to be fixed.
You are not flawed. You are you, there is nothing flawed about you.
Flawed.
No thank you.
I am me. I am whole.
I don’t need to be fixed.
I don’t need perfection in life
All I need is to be my authentic self.
Flawed isn’t something you are.
Flaws aren’t something you have.
Other words, according to the thesaurus, for flaw: bug, defect, failing, weakness, glitch.
NONE of those words are associated with you, and neither is flaw.
If I believe I am flawed, that I have to accept my imperfections, that I am “Perfectly flawed” or I am “accepting my flaws” as quotes like to say, it allows others to permeate my mind in thinking that they have solutions to my problems. That I am something that needs to be fixed. Because don’t we always try to fix the flaws?
I don’t want to be perfect or flawless, but I do want to work on being the best possible me, committed to growth, determined to find a deeper understanding of me, to appreciate all my uniqueness and shine that light I have within me.
A flawed person could never do that.
A flawed person never WOULD do that.
I will always make mistakes, I’ll never get it right the first time around, I’ll say the wrong thing, I’ll do the wrong thing – all that is steps toward growth, to seeing myself as who I am.
And who is that person? Someone who is always trying her best. Open to learning. Being a positive light to those around her. Spreading love and joy.
Stop looking at yourself as flawed.
Stop seeing imperfections.
You are complete. You are whole.
You are never, ever flawed.
This post is long overdue! One year ago, I began construction of the outdoor patio at the studio. It was finished in June, with the design completed in early July. It’s now April. Yup, long time coming. 🙂
When I first saw the building in its raw state, I saw the patio and knew exactly what belonged out there. I didn’t have the time to focus on that piece of the studio when I first bought the building because the inside needed all my attention. You know, redoing all the electrical, HVAC, making a handicapped bathroom, redoing a ceiling. Then painting and cleaning. Finally design. So, yea, the inside had all my attention but it was time for the outside!
It was nice to finally be able to bring this whole space to life! My creative mind gets obsessed until I can get those ideas out of my head and simply waiting for the right time was very hard on me.
First thing I needed to do was put a roof on the space – the open air concept wasn’t going to work for how much it rains in Western PA. That involved using some existing frame work and building upon that to give me a clear roof. A roof that allows light in and also continues to give me privacy.
When that was finished, it was time to design all the sets that I had initially envisioned.
Please meet
Within the garden, there are four different sets: The silver tub and hanging wisteria, the boho egg chair, the purple sofa and pink flowers, and the outdoor shower!
It’s an oasis. I sometimes find myself sitting out there to relax, and I often look around and am amazed at what the space has become.
The Goddess Garden is now a session add on. When you select this add on, you have access to all the sets out there and we can use as many as you wish for your photo session!
Here are two sets from the garden! I am constantly changing and adding things out there – much like the inside!
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Strength
There are many ways to define strength, there are even more ways to identify that strength in your life.
Often times, you singularly focus on your strength when you are working your way through difficult events in life.
And, that’s certainly obvious. However, in your every day life, you exude strength. You simply have to take a closer look.
Strength is walking away from conversations that don’t serve you.
Strength is letting go of friendships that are not healthy.
Strength is following your heart when everyone else might say you are wrong.
Strength is admitting how you really feel instead of saying “I’m fine.”
Strength is crying when you need to instead of brushing everything off with a smile.
Strength is not retaliating when someone hurts you.
Strength is forgiving those that have hurt you, whether they feel bad about it or not.
Strength is communicating with others even when the conversations are difficult.
Strength is being honest about where you are in life.
Strength is saying “I can do this” in the face of fear.
Strength is sometimes simply getting out of bed.
Strength is focusing on your mental health.
Strength is having HOPE.
Strength is BELIEVING you are enough.
Strength is standing up for yourself when something is not good enough for you.
Strength is saying “enough is enough.”
Strength is not delaying all the things you want to do in your life.
Strength is reminding yourself, daily, how worthy you are.
There are many ways you can identify your strength. I hope that you can see all those things, because it doesn’t just exist within your trauma and pain. It exists within your life every single day. Don’t give your trauma and challenges all the power – YOU are the one fighting through that stuff. You are recognizing and believig your strength. YOU ARE DOING THAT!
YOU ARE STRONG
YOU ARE LOVED
YOU ARE WORTHY
YOU ARE ENOUGH
This is MY BUTT! Yes, my butt. I am using myself in this posing demonstration.