Your body is at the mercy of your mind.  You’ve, I’m sure, heard the famous quote that goes something like this “Your body isn’t the problem.  What you think about your body is the problem.”

And, it’s true.  Your mind is bullying your body and you are the only one that can put a stop to it.

Whenever something happens in my life, my body immediately takes the brunt of my hurt, anger and pain.  I take it all out on my body, as if my body is the cause of all my problems.  That if I didn’t look the way I did that what I am experiencing, what I am feeling, what I am dealing with would not exist.  This is the biggest lie I tell myself.  I imagine most women do this.

Recently, I was trying to handle some HVAC issues at the studio and I found myself saying things like, “Gosh you are so gross. You need to lose some weight.  Stop eating all that nasty food.”

What did I think?  That if my body changed, I would have had HVAC problems.  They would exist regardless of what I looked like.  The anger I felt would be there regardless.  Why couldn’t I just deal with the emotions I was feeling instead of bullying my body?  The emotions will always come and go, and my body shouldn’t bare the weight of everything in life.

Knowing that this behavior is no longer a typical for me (it once was), I stopped and questioned why I was saying such things.  Knowing that my body hadn’t changed recently, so there was nothing physical that had actually happened that would trigger this kind of response, I knew it was an emotional response.  To deal with my emotions, I was taking it out on my body.

Ever have a bad day and you yell at someone that had nothing to do with your bad day?  That’s what I was doing, just to myself, my body, not another person.

What a terrible trend.  I realized that a new goal needed to exist within my life.

That goal is that my body and mind need to peacefully coexist.

That goal means that when someone happens in my life or when I’m feeling heavy emotions, that I don’t immediately blame my body.  They peacefully coexist.

When I was younger and my sisters and I would fight, my mother would inevitably have to jump in to get us to stop.

Her response to us was always, “You don’ have to like each other right now but you do need to respect each other.”

That’s how we should be looking at the relationship with our body.

You don’t have to like it.  Love it?  Not necessary.

But, peacefully coexistence where the mind doesn’t attack the body when something goes wrong.